In the aftermath of the 2025 Kerrville flood, an unimaginable tragedy has unfolded. Families are left to grapple with the loss of loved ones, homes, and their sense of safety. Children particularly struggle with processing grief, while onlookers feel the weight of the devastation around them. Even those of us in DFW feel the aftershocks of watching this unfold, while some had children or family on the campgrounds. Grief is all around us. Yes, grief is a universal experience, but it manifests in diverse ways. Knowing how to provide support during such difficult times is crucial. This post serves as a guide for anyone seeking therapeutic grief support and valuable resources for children, families, and onlookers affected by the Kerrville tragedy.
Understanding Grief in the Wake of Tragedy
Grief is a deep emotional response to significant loss, and it often intensifies after traumatic events like natural disasters. While most people connect grief primarily with losing a loved one, it also includes the loss of homes, community, and a sense of stability.
Whether or not you were “personally” affected by Kerrville, this post is for anyone who is trying to process grief with a child, a friend, or yourself.
1. Acknowledging Feelings
A key aspect of grief support, especially for children and families, is acknowledging feelings.
Many adults instinctively try to shield children from pain. However, this can unintentionally silence their feelings. It is essential to encourage open conversations about the flood’s impact. For example, a family could set aside time each week to discuss memories of their home or loved ones lost. This method not only validates feelings but also strengthens emotional connections.
Kids will process things differently than we do. Follow their lead. Give age-appropriate facts when there are questions.
2. Providing a Safe Space
Creating a safe emotional environment is crucial.
For families, fostering open dialogue means allowing each member, no matter their age, to share thoughts and feelings freely. Safe spaces can also be established in therapeutic settings, where trained grief counselors guide discussions and activities. Connecting your child, yourself, or a friend with other avenues of support will be of benefit, including church support programs, small groups, friend circles, or therapy groups.
3. Grief Resources for Families
Those looking for professional support can find numerous therapy resources to assist families in managing their grief.
Books to check out
For young kids, The Goodbye Book, by Todd Parr, When Dinosaurs Die, by Laurie & Marc Brown
For Elementary kids, The Memory Box by Joanna Rowland
For Parents and Adults, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman , It’s Not Supposed to be This Way by Lysa Terkeurst
For a Free group therapy resource, check of Journey of Hope in Plano. I’ve worked with them and they are wonderfully supportive. Faith & Grief is a resource in Dallas. Prestontrail offers good resources as well, but check with your local church.
4. Special Considerations for Children
Children have unique needs when it comes to processing grief.
Many may not fully grasp the concept of death or may interpret it differently based on their developmental stage. Resources like the book “The Goodbye Book” by Todd Parr can help them navigate their emotions. Art and play therapy programs tailored for grieving children provide constructive outlets for expressing complex feelings, making it easier for them to cope.
Special things to consider with children:
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Kids process differently, let them lead
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Give age-appropriate facts
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Don’t try to correct their feelings, or make it too positive
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Let them lead the conversation, they will ask about what they want to know
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Let them tell the story about their trauma or grief as often as they want to
Every child grieves differently. Some common signs they may need extra help:
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Regression (bedwetting, clinginess, tantrums)
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Avoiding talking about the loss
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Changes in eating/sleeping
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Persistent sadness, anxiety, or isolation
If these persist for weeks or interfere with daily life, consider child therapy or grief counseling
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5. Healthy Coping Mechanisms
Understanding healthy coping mechanisms is vital for individuals affected by grief.
Activities like engaging in physical exercise, doing art, or journaling can help in processing these overwhelming emotions. According to a study by the Journal of Family Psychology, individuals who express their grief through creative outlets report feeling a greater sense of relief and understanding.
6. The Role of Rituals
Rituals can play a significant role in the grieving process.
Participating in ceremonies or memorials can provide a structured way to honor lost loved ones and acknowledge the trauma of losing homes and community. For example, creating new traditions, such as an annual memorial walk, can foster healing and create lasting connections among those grieving.
7. Seeking Ongoing Support
Grief is a complex, non-linear journey that can extend long after the initial loss.
Families and individuals should prepare for a long-term path to healing. Engaging in ongoing counseling, therapy sessions, or community groups can ensure that everyone’s needs continue to be met as they navigate their grief together.
